Navigating new terrain (commentary on capacity building):

Recently, I’ve shared a bit in video form on the topic of capacity building. Here’s one clip with a technique that, with practice, is supportive of growing capacity in your nervous system.

In this post, though, I want to share on how venturing into new terrain is a capacity-building opportunity.

As I was preparing to begin our THRIVE program this month, and wanting to share some of the tips and tools leading up to the program, but feeling the time crunch, I got a tough love nudge from a mentor of mine to get started with sharing on video.

I’ll confess, I’ve been daydreaming about sharing educational video clips for months now. However, there’s been a lot of chatter to keep me from doing it.

I have a love-hate relationship with social media.
I get nervous system overwhelm with too much time on the screen.
It was going to take too much time to get it “right."
And putting myself out there on video, on the internet, felt like a mix of exciting and terrifying.
And then there are all of the tech details, which is something I’m definitely NOT put on the planet to do.

Here's the breakdown of my steps:

So I did 4 things that helped me get over the hump and just do it…

1) I reflected on how I’ve been growing my own capacity. I realized I’ve done 5 conference presentations/ workshops on video (zoom) in the past 3 months, and in total have spoken with a couple thousand people. I acknowledged that I’ve loved engaging with participants in those spaces, sharing these healing concepts and techniques, and growing my capacity to deliver support at a different scale this online space.

2) I checked in with my body (“body listening” being a key teaching of the THRIVE program that I’ll touch on in another moment– one of my favorites), and I got a “yes, it’s time. Go for done, not perfect.” My body listening also reminded me that sharing via video has been life-giving, not depleting.

3) I got support in thinking through what pieces to share with a friend/ colleague, who gave me a big boost of encouragement, and said, “yes, you need to get this information and these practices out there!”

4) I broke my plan down into bite sized chunks (I have a tendency to want to take it all on at once) and did it, one step at a time.

Then, with great humility, and some deep, oxygenating, parasympathetic nervous system calming breaths, I created a few videos and then posted them on YouTube.

After doing each one, I was reminded that I actually really like doing this – and that I have to walk my talk with the capacity building :).

And knowing that I can be of service in new ways, that I can share ideas to support well-being (that you can access in your best timing), and that the messages might help someone who really needs it just feels right.

Capacity building is life-giving:

Growing our own capacity (nervous system and otherwise) can be a powerful and life-giving process, which can help us get to a place of feeling more purposeful and more deeply of service in the world.

You may need different types of capacity-building support in different moments.

It might be any of the following…

Learning techniques to calm the anxious mind
Doing deep healing around old, ancestral patterns that are popping up in relationships with your kids, partner, patients, colleagues or teams
Developing the mindset to focus on self-care and healing (even when you’re struggling with health, sleep, and brain fog)
Growing your capacity to manage (and just be with) kiddo outbursts without having your own tantrum (at a time where lots of kiddos are struggling)
Creating space and the time to make healthy, nutritious meals

Or whatever it is you’re needing to grow your capacity to step into newer, fuller expressions of yourself.

Remember, self- care is a revolutionary act - and one that ripples out to all you touch, serve and care for.

I'm wishing you deep breaths and increased capacity for whatever you're growing into.

The world needs you well.

With love and blessings,

Kelly

Kelly Lubeck, MPH, RYT